Let’s face it. Dating can be downright disappointing when you feel like you’ve been dating forever and you have nothing to show it.
I mean where is he already??????
You’ve been dating for years now, right?
The truth is, while it’s totally normal to feel disappointed from time to time in dating, if you stay in that energy all you are doing is perpetuating being single.
So, I’m going to share the top 3 ways to keep the faith when dating EVEN when you feel there’s absolutely zero evidence that you’ll find the one.
Helping women keep the faith is one of my main jobs as a Love Coach and what I know to be true is that when you FULLY believe you can find your man that’s when it happens.
So, here’s tip #1 to keep the faith when dating
See the outcome of you finding your man as CERTAIN, not a maybe and then choose to see everything that’s happening now as evidence that you’re going to find him.
The reason so many women lose faith when dating is because they perceive everything that is happening from a guy not calling back to a relationship not working out as evidence that they are failing, flawed and never gonna find their man.
And anyone would feel depressed or disappointed if they thought that way.
Instead, what you want to do is ask yourself for everything that happens when dating, good or bad, how is this evidence that I’m going to meet my man?
At first your brain is probably going to be like, “It’s not! You’re failing!” Because your mind is used to going down that path.
But if you sit there and keep asking the question, you’ll find an answer.
For instance, if you just got ghosted by a guy you could take that as “evidence” that dating sucks and you’re never going to find your guy
Or you could say, “Oh, this is great. I must be getting closer to my man because the wrong men are moving faster and faster out of my reality.”
Instead of wasting time on the wrong men, the universe is moving them out of the way quickly
Now, is either version the ultimate truth? No.
But thinking you’re failing makes you feel like crap while thinking you’re progressing makes you feel good and that helps keep the faith.
Here’s tip #2 to keep the faith when dating
Seeing other people get it as evidence that you will have it too.
Ok, when you’ve been single forever and your friend finds her dream man or you scroll on Facebook and all you see are engagement notices, it can feel like a knife to your heart.
The immediate thoughts are, “Omg what’s wrong with me???
Why is everyone else able to find love and not me?”
Again, if you think this way, you will feel disappointed.
But, I want you to train your mindset to start seeing other people having it as evidence that you will have it too.
Tell yourself, whenever you see anyone finding love
The fact that I am seeing this means it’s already in my vibration.
It’s’ already in my world, and it’s coming to me now.
NOW I can hear your ming going, “But wait a minute Nicole. . . I’ve been seeing friends and other people find love for years and I still haven’t had it, so what gives?”
Hear me on this.
Your ENERGY is everything in love and dating.
Your ENERGY is what attracts your partner to you or blocks them from coming,
And energy doesn’t lie.
Yes, of course you’ve seen other people finding and having love before and that hasn’t resulted in you being with your dream man yet.
But, if your energy in the past was
“Ughhhhhhhhh why isn’t this happening to me?”
Or, “Ughh what’s wrong with me?”
Then your emotional reaction to these events has been causing you to stay single.
So, forget the past and just choose now to say that whenever you see someone else getting what you want, it means what you want is already on its way to you.
Instead of making it mean there’s something wrong with you,
Just say, “Thank you for showing me what’s on it’s way too me and yes, I’ll take that too now.”
You’ll feel so much better and this will instantly give you more faith to keep going and keep dating because your man IS out there.
Here’s tip #3 to keep the faith when dating
Look for incremental progress as evidence
Focusing on the INNER shifts and INCREMENTAL progress as evidence that your love work is working and not NEEDING a certain result on the outside (a.k.a. a great man wanting to commit to you ASAP) as “proof” that your love desire is manifesting is the key to keeping the faith.
In every other area, if you are trying to get a result, you LOVE when you see progress, even if it’s incremental.
Trying to manifest money? I bet if you found $10 on the street tomorrow you’d be so happy and take that as “evidence” that your work is working.
Trying to lose 50lbs, if you stepped on the scale tomorrow and were even just 1lb lighter, you’d probably be ecstatic.
But with love, being obsessed with the outcome of finding the one makes us ignore anything else except for finding the one as evidence that our efforts are working to bring us what we want.
PROGRESS makes us feel happy and gives us energy to move forward toward our goals and not quit.
So, when you choose to see everything as moving you toward your end goal, all of a sudden, dating changes from this horrible thing you have to do in the hopes that one day you’ll get lucky, to the exact thing that is HELPING you reach your goals quicker.
Start looking for small incremental increases in the quality of men that you attract,
How much better you feel about yourself,
how the dates get better and better as evidence that you are on your way to your goal and you’ll instantly feel better.
Now all of these 3 tips I’ve shared to keep the faith when dating are really MINDSET tips. Meaning, if you hold your mindset around dating in a certain way, you’ll get the results you want.
Mindset is a big key in attracting in the one and so is your energy and confidence level.
When all 3 are amazing, you meet a super quality man.
So, check out THIS link for free access to my raining quality men video where I show you how to have a rock solid dating mindset, amazing attractive energy and be the most confident woman ever so dating goes from a boring chore to being the thing that brings you to your dream man.
Author: Nicole Moore
Nicole Moore is a love coach who helps, powerful, influential women find their ideal partner. Using her signature Love Works Method, she’s helped thousands of women find lasting love fast.
Nicole started her company while she was in a relationship she thought would lead to marriage. Instead it resulted in emotional abuse and her boyfriend cheating on her. Suddenly single as a life coach, Nicole had to start following her own advice and take every tip she’d ever taught a client – and it worked. She found her dream man exactly one year after following her program and is now happily married with a beautiful son living in Encinitas, CA.
Nicole has three life coaching certifications, including certification from New York University. She’s been featured in Money Magazine, Forbes, and Greatist.com.