Sometimes we wait too long to get the help we need and unwanted things happen
as a result.

So, as my client Lucy (name changed to protect privacy) finally pulled the trigger on working with me (she’d been in my community for years)
because her relationship was going south quickly,
it’s no surprise that the day after she signed up,
he broke up with her.

Ouch for her.
And, what seemed like a now even bigger task for me as her coach
to help her get the relationship she wanted.

So, we started with the root cause.
Why had she been sabotaging this relationship and picking fights?
Why had her man come on strong in the beginning and then slowly started to pull away, giving less and less of himself and his time to her?

It all came down to the INNER LITTLE GIRL.

Though she’s in her 60s and an amazing, beautiful and powerful woman,
Lucy had never taken the time to heal what I call her “love cracks” within.

As a child, she developed painful stories and limiting beliefs that were STILL creating havoc in her love life today.

Stories like:
– I’m only valuable because of my looks and there’s nothing else great about me. I’m not smart enough, talented enough etc. (and this is a painful story to have because obviously our looks change over time!)
– A man is always going to want someone better and then leave me.
– I’m not getting enough attention and it’s because I’m not worthy of more attention
– Men show up in the beginning but then if you show them too much care or attention, they stop giving you what you want

These old stories and wounds from her little girl manifested in Lucy being worried that her man would leave her for someone else and interestingly enough, he never cheated but he WOULD look at other women in front of her sometimes, which caused her pain.

The old stories and wounds manifested in Lucy constantly obsessing over whether her man was giving her enough attention, being mad when he’d check his phone or take time for himself, because she felt abandoned and left.

The old stories and wounds manifested in Lucy showing up as NEEDY, controlling and overly emotional and ironically at the time she feared that being vulnerable would make her appear needy, but it was already happening.

The old stories and wounds manifested in Lucy snapping and being verbally aggressive with her tone of voice, which in turn triggered his inner wounds.

Basically, her inner little girl was running the show, wreaking havoc, and she didn’t feel she had control.

For 6 whole weeks we JUST worked on her and didn’t even focus on getting her man back.

I showed Lucy how to heal her “love cracks” and finally experience emotional freedom from the painful childhood moments that had caused her to become needy and overly emotional in love.

I showed Lucy how to have emotional fitness so the emotions didn’t overpower her and cause her to act impulsively, say the wrong things, sabotage and then regret it later.

I showed Lucy how to own her worth, see her unique value and understand that she DID deserve a man being full devoted and only having eyes for her.

Basically, she became the woman she TRULY IS for the first time in her life, in her romantic life. 
Insanely beautiful, funny, charming, loving, sexy, talented, powerful, and knowing what she deserves and how to communicate in a loving, feminine way to get what she wants from a man.

6 weeks of diving deep and then her man came back into the picture.

To be clear, he had never REALLY wanted to break up with her in the first place.
He was frustrated because she seemed upset with him all of the time and her reactions to him were triggering his inner woundings and he eventually just snapped and said we’re done.

They were slowly trying to move toward being back together.

And this time, our work together was even more important.
Becuase Lucy has to now put everything to practice WITH a man.

It’s easier to do inner work on your love life when single but the rubber really meets the road when you have a MAN in front of you and then you have to CHOOSE to embody the Empowered Woman and not the Inner Little Girl. 

I’m not going to lie. After just 6 weeks of doing the work, Lucy’s Inner Little Girl patterns wanted to come back raging when her man came back.

Her system didn’t fully trust yet that she could be THIS loved and adored.

But this time, we had a game plan.

She felt the triggers FIRST before reacting and responding to him.

She owned her worth FIRST and loved herself first before making up stories about him that he wasn’t doing enough or giving enough.

She communicated in an entirely different way than before because she was now using my loving, feminine communication techniques.

The result?
This man said I AM MORE IN LOVE WITH YOU THAN EVER BEFORE.

He started naturally calling more, giving her more attention, being more doting.

And to show his absolute faith and devotion to her, on Valentine’s Day he got her a HUGE poster in a picture frame with song lyrics including “I only have eyes for you.”
That was his way of letting her know that he heard her concerns and was fully devoted to her.

We were able to get this high level of result so quickly because of doing private coaching work together. 

One amazing benefit that only my private clients get is DAILY on-call access to me via voice messaging back and forth whenever they have a question or are freaking out and going to crazy-town.

Instead of throwing her freakouts on him, she sent them to me. And I showed her how to shift, get out of little girl mode, and get back into her power.

Now, she doesn’t need me. She’s got this. The tools are in her. She knows what to do.

But boy was it helpful for her to have me having her back UNTIL she could get to the place where the little girl stopped running the show and the empowered woman stepped up.

I’m going to dive deeper in a separate post, part 2, where I share more of the specific changes in communication, changes in how she showed up with her man and what we did to get her man from breaking up to OMG you are the only woman in the world for me and being totally devoted.

So stay tuned for that.

In the meantime, I want to let you know that I’ve decided to open up TWO more spots for Private Coaching with me at this time. 
Typically, I have 2 clients at a time because our work is do deep and I give you my full attention, but after seeing how quickly a new private client of mine is shifting,
and how incredible the results are,
I felt called to allow 2 more women in to this amazing opportunity
to have DAILY access to me and be plugged into love QUICKLY to shift. 

Did you know that my PRIVATE CLIENTS get the entire Get and Keep Your Man Curriculum, ALL of my digital programs AND the best thing ever….Voice Messaging Access to me DAILY for the fastest possible shifts in love ever?

Did you know that none of my private clients that I’ve worked with who’ve found their man as a result of us working together have broken up with their man? (except ONE and she was actually a coach of mine for years and I love her and she’s on her man path now)

Incredibly high success rate because you’re plugged into love daily.
It’s the fastest way to get BIG results in your love life because you literally have daily contact with me.

And it’s for a certain kind of woman only.
Already powerful and successful in other areas of life but love is the missing piece, the Achilles heel, the one area that working hard isn’t seeming to lead to a result.

Highest level of access to me. Fastest results. Deepest integration of the love work so you become a true mater. Access to all of my programs plus any new programs that I launch during out time together.

Daily access to ME. My brain. my heart. My wisdom on your love life.

Truly priceless.

And for a very special woman who is ready to move QUICKLY, dive in, do the work and is at a high enough vibration that she is READY to access Higher Love now.

Is it you?
Message me at nicole@loveworksmethod.com and let’s find out. 🙂